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Terry, I agree with your response. The thing that struck me most after reading about this situation is how fast everything seemed to move -- including meeting and then becoming engaged in only a few short months. (And, as you said, not even a year after his wife passed away.) I don't believe in predetermined time limits for grieving, because we all grieve differently. However, this relationship seems to have moved very quickly and very intensely.

I have never dated a widower seriously; however, I once went out with someone who had lost his wife at a young age (about 30). They had been married for only 2 years. I don't know the circumstances of how she died, but twelve years later when he and I met I can tell you that it was still difficult for him in certain ways. I hope your reader slows down and, as you said, finds a way to focus on other things or to let it go.

10:50 AM

Terry said...

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11:15 AM

Terry said...

B., Ronnie, and Susan- Thank you for backing me up. This woman is in such a difficult situation.

I especially appreciate your comments today of all days. It's been an interesting one.

11:19 AM

A Journey Well Taken: Life After Loss said...

Excellent advice. I'm a widow of four years and I can see all the telltale signs of NOT being ready to commit to a long term relationship, much less date. It's too soon for this widower and this lady should just step back and realize he hasn't grieved properly. We all do it in our own time and way. Unfortunately in the grieving process, we sometimes feel such an abundance of loneliness, we think dating or getting immediately into another relationship will fix the hole inside. Only time and loving support of family and friends can help do that.

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